Inside My Surrogacy Journey

If you’ve been following along, you already know surrogacy has basically become my entire personality lately. My calendar is a mix of appointments, medications, and me Googling things I definitely already know. My group chats are tired. My husband is giving me supportive-but-concerned side eye. We are thriving.

People always tell me they’re curious about surrogacy, but no one really knows how to talk about it. So let’s talk about it. Like friends. Like humans. Like two people sitting on the couch talking about something wild and beautiful and very real.

Here is what this part of the journey actually looks like.

Where I’m at right now

At the moment, I am on birth control to get my body synced and ready for the next phase of treatment. And let me just say this part has been brutal AF. My hormones are doing their own thing. My head hurts. I’m crying at things that do not deserve tears. My family is learning to approach me slowly, like I’m a skittish forest animal.

This stage of surrogacy is very “a lot is happening, but also nothing is happening.” Everything is moving behind the scenes, but it still doesn’t totally feel real yet.

What the dads are doing right now

On their end, the dads are working through egg donor clearance and getting everything finalized so we can move forward. Their checklist looks different than mine, but it is just as important. Surrogacy is a team project, and this is the part where everyone is working quietly in their own lane so the next steps can line up.

Early surrogacy feels like this.

If early pregnancy is “is this happening,” early surrogacy is “is this EVER going to happen.” So many steps. So many approvals. So many tiny tasks that matter way more than you think.

Nobody talks about this part because it is not glamorous, but it is real. And honestly, it’s the foundation of the entire journey. These boring little steps are what make everything else possible.

The part nobody tells you.

People imagine surrogacy as the pregnancy part. The belly. The ultrasounds. The birth.

But the beginning is a whole different world.

It is:

• syncing hormones

• paperwork

• psychological evaluations

• medical testing

• legal steps

• approvals

• more waiting

• and even more waiting

It is a lot, but it also feels like the start of something big. Like building the stage before the show starts.

Why I share all this.

Surrogacy is beautiful. It is emotional. It is chaotic in ways you do not expect. It requires trust, communication, and patience. And it deserves to be talked about in a normal, human way.

So that is what I’m doing.

Sharing the real stuff.

Not the glossy, perfect version.

The actual lived experience of what it feels like to carry a pregnancy for another family.